Use It or Lose It

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DAILY PROMPT

Write about anything you’d like, but make sure the post includes this sentence:

“I thought we’d never come back from that one.” 

Whenever I hear the phrase use it or lose it I think of sex.

I can’t help it, that’s just how my brain works. Think about it this way; the more we have sex the more we think about sex and the more we think about sex the more want sex.

If we slack off or lose that loving feeling. We must think, use it or lose it.

So I started to think; how long was the longest dry spell between sexual encounters? As far as I can remember it had to be when I had my first back surgery. That was in nineteen eighty-nine.

I was in such a bad way. That surgery almost killed me. I remember screaming as a spasm grabbed hold of me.  I wasn’t able to walk on my own for six months. Now you would think I wasn’t thinking about sex. But I was thinking about sex. I mean we had only been married for three years.

I was thinking this is the longest we’ve ever gone without it.

Will my husband wait for me?

Will he leave me?

Does he love me enough to wait?

Will I ever want sex again?

Will my body keep failing me or will I walk again?

Why did this happen to me?

And am I ever going to get back to some kind of normal?

Yes I was feeling all sorts of sorry for myself at that time. And I was a mess if you really want to know the truth. I also had to take steroids.  I had what they call moon face. It’s not a very attractive look, especially for a twenty-nine year old woman. Moon face at any age can put you over the edge, but in your twenties it’s that much worse.

Being on steroids I also gained about thirty pounds.  And being only four-foot ten inches tall I wasn’t feeling my sexy side if you know what I mean. Hell I couldn’t even find my sexy side.

So here I was not able to walk on my own, in excruciating pain, with a body and face as big as the moon. I remember feeling like a huge beach ball with a face.

It was hard to look in the mirror each day, and when I did I cried. So I was thinking: how could my husband look at me and still want sex?

And even though sex at that time was physically impossible. I couldn’t put my mind around him still wanting me in that way.  But he did. And somehow he would make me forget what I looked like. This amazing man would tell me I was beautiful and that he loved me each and every day. He also reassured me that he wasn’t going anywhere.

It was this man who got me through one of the hardest times in my life.

All I had to do was hear his voice and I would feel a calm come over me.  Yes, It was his voice that would get me through some of my toughest days.

Fast forward through a year of the hardest physical and then aquatic therapy and I was finally able to get half of my strength back. I got rid of the walker and steroids. My face went back to normal. Sure I still had about twenty pounds to lose but I was starting to feel like myself.

Through all this I realized that we did have that unconditional love thing going for us. So I promised to never doubt his love again.

I know that I am one of the luckiest women in the world. I may have to live with chronic back pain for the rest of my life but I had made it back from a failed open lumbar back Laminectomy. Yes I was left with chronic pain for the rest of my life.

And I found out was that I have a husband who will always be there for me no matter what.  And I realized if he could stand by my side through a year of hell without physical sex 😉 than I knew without a doubt that we could make it back from anything.

Yes there were times when  “I thought we’d  never come back from that one.”  But we did.

Oh and the sex? Well our sex life just keeps getting better. It turns out that we never lost that connection. And that’s why I always say: “Where there’s a will there’s definitely a way.” With sex it doesn’t have to be physical. sex is a state of mind. And you either use it or lose it!

 

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Save HarsH ReaLiTy!!

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If WordPress can suspend HarsH ReaLiTy’s ability to follow and “like” other blogs than they can suspend anyone of us. So Like, Share, or re-blog, But don’t just sit there and do nothing.

Linda G. Hill

No one likes spam. In internet terms (as opposed to the stuff you find on the grocery store shelf) it’s the bane of our existence. Its sole purpose is to get our attention and once it does, it either begs us to buy something or gives us something we would never pay for – something like a virus.

Then there is the exception to the rule. In fact, there is only one exception that I’ve found in over a decade of browsing the web. It may have seemed like a “spam follow” at the start, but when I followed the cookie-crumb trail that led me back to its source, it ended up benefiting me beyond my wildest dreams: it was HarsH ReaLiTy.

Jason, also known as Opinionated Man, has a huge (over 50,000 blog, twitter, and Facebook combined) following on his blog, HarsH ReaLiTy. His passion for connecting with other…

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It Could Happen To You

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When I stumbled upon this story I couldn’t help but feel this young man’s pain. How can anyone treat someone with such utter disrespect. And all because he’s gay.

Shane loved Tom. And Tom loved Shane. It’s that simple. They made a life together in California,  Bought a home, shared a business. Adopted a dog. Traveled the world. They lived an honest, decent life. And did I say they loved each other? There is no denying the love these two men shared when you watch the video posted here and on the internet.

The laws in this country need to be fixed ASAP. We can’t let this keep happening. One time is too many.

No one chooses to be gay. You are either born heterosexual or homosexual. Its just that simple.

Telling your son you wished he told you sooner so he could have been fixed is just ignorance at it’s finest. He shouldn’t have to feel ashamed. But the parents who took everything from their son and the man he loved should be ashamed of themselves.

Tom died in a tragic accident. He didn’t have a will. Shane couldn’t even get the records from the hospital because they weren’t married in the eyes of the law.

And Tom’s parents who dis-owned him after he told them he was gay. Well they made Shane pay to have Tom’s body flown back to the town they lived in. And they threatened Shane’s life so that he couldn’t attend his life’s partners funeral.

I’m sure Tom’s parents took half the house, half the business from Shane. And I only hope this never happens to another couple again. But I’m sure it happens everyday in America. We need to change the laws.

This story was made into a documentary. It won awards at the Tribeca Film festival in 2013. I intend to go to Netflix and order it as soon as I’m done with this post.

Shane I’m so sorry for your loss.

I hope that those of you who’ve watched this story will share it with as many people as you can. Open your heart and put yourself in Shane’s position for just one minute.

The next time you walk into a voting booth and can vote on same sex marriage I hope you vote with your heart. Stop letting religion and what was written thousands of years ago decide what you know is right.

Thank you for reading this post.

Party On The Beach..

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So with all the preparation for the first party I decided to plan an party for all the other people I would love to meet in person. All those people that I talk to almost everyday. Some of these people I’ve talked to for years.

There’s my girls from Living despite pain group. We started this group a few years ago and we have five woman. Dar is the Canuck, Kaye is the English woman whose living in S. Korea. My English rose Alana along with Karen both from England of course. , And the baby Roisin from Ireland.  Sadly Aisling who was our koala just passed away. So for you Aisling Willow Cahill I say;  Merry meet, Merry part, and merry meet again.  I have no doubt that Ash as we called her will show up in some fashion.

Now for the rest. The Aussie Elizabeth will no doubt fly in for this festive party. And I’m sure she will bring some of that amazing coffee with her. I have no doubt DG will fly in from Arizona. Did I mention she’s an author whose also a Canuck who spends her winters state side. DG is the reason I started this party as she so wanted to crash the one in NYC, Lol.

My best friends Sherry and Deb will already be in Florida and they are always up for another party. I’m sure Genie will be there with Deb and of course she’s invited.

Now for the authors, LaRae is our Funny Crazy lady. Donalie is the mamma. Tre is one woman who needs some sunshine and party on the beach. Then there’s Marie, Jas, Janie, Anne, Regina, Augusta, Jane, Wendy, Vivi, CF, And Erin. Now I know for sure there are many others. But these are the women who are not afraid to talk about sex. Their not afraid to let their hair down. Oh and they can take a joke.

I do believe that meeting this group of amazing women face to face and putting them all together would enrich all our lives.  And I can’t wait to see what everyone will be wearing. Don’t forget to bring your sweaters as it just might get cool down by the water as the sun goes down.

This party is on Siesta Key beach in Florida. There’s a long table with white linen table clothes and china. Blue and yellow flowers in clear vases along with pink bougainvillea  are strewn about the table. White votive’s and large glass jars filled with sand each with one white large candle.  There’s even sea shells some holding the place cards in front of each place setting.

Close enough..

 

 

Tinted blue Mason jars are the glasses I choose for this party.This way it doesn’t matter if you’re drinking from the huge pitchers of water with lemon slices or your favorite beverage of choice.  Oh and this is a BYOB dinner party. I will be sure to have a few bottle of Patron and a few bottles of Kinky pink along with assorted sodas, pineapple and orange juice, a cooler full of ice and two blenders for anyone who wants a margarita or wants to come up with a specialty drink for my party.

Ahh the food will be Prosciutto & mozzarella on brushetta. Grilled chicken with Italian seasoning, Tomato salad with fresh sharp Italian cheese and black olives a balsamic and olive oil dressing makes this perfect. Fresh green beans and asparagus seared to perfection with garlic and olive oil. And for dessert assorted pastries.

And as the sun goes down and we’ve all eaten we will sit around the fire pit and this is when the tequila comes out. Shots for everyone, even those who don’t drink would have at least one. We would need some entertainment so maybe this is where we let the guys come in. There always good for a few laughs. And who else is going to man the embers as we try and make smores.

Before the night is over I have one more surprise. I hand everyone a Chinese lantern. We would all make a wish then light and let them float out above the sea.

All in all it will be a great party with good food, and great friends and a lot of laughter. If you would like to come to this party just add your name in the comments and tell me what you think you can add to this party.

If I could really put this party together and one day I will I would love to see the pictures that will be taken that day and night. What a wonderful day it would be..

We always have room for interesting fun people who love to laugh. You need to have an open mind and a sexy side. Well DG that’s the party. Just pick out your beach outfit. Sandals are optional as we will have our feet in the sand that feels like baby powder. If I missed something or you have something to add feel free.

That’s my beach party and I’m sticking to it..Lol.. 🙂

Rules For Dating is Sexy Sunday #22

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SEX w/ Annie

Dating and getting naked is so much fun..

I’ve gotten quite a few e-mails from both men and women who are reading my #SexySunday blog post each week.  They want to know what I think about dating. There are so many lonely people out there that have broken up with their spouse or have gotten a divorce.  So what are they supposed to do on a #SexySunday?  How are they supposed to have a #SexySunday when there’s no one to share it with?

There’s nothing like a romantic walk or dance in the rain..

We are all in this sexy world together and starting over is no joke.

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For Your Pleasure Vending Wishes?

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The Pleasure box..

DAILY PROMPT

Vending Wishes

Soft drinks, electronics, nutrient-free snacks — you can get all of those from a vending machine. But what type of vending machine is sorely needed but doesn’t yet exist? Share your automated retail fantasies with us!

This is an Adult Vending machine. If you’re not of legal age please stop reading.

Why isn’t there a vending machine where you can use your credit, or debit card for twenty minutes of pure bliss. Each day the Vending machine would be able to take you to that one place where we can each let go of all our inhibitions.

You pay the machine and step in to this dark low lit room. Think about it there’s enough room in one of the those machines for a semi reclining chair. As you walk in you will see the plastic being replaced over the chair. You sit down and there are no worries about cleanliness. The room and toys get steamed cleaned after each use.

There’s a control panel where you pick your pleasure. For the male’s a sensual woman’s voice guides you to that specific pleasure, be it a Hand job or Blow Job, or maybe tickle your balls.

Females will hear a sexy dominant male voice that might say something like lye back while I take care of your needs Mistress and your name. Depending on the pleasure session she might chose this male might tell her to pick up that Magic wand.  Just imagine the place is sound proof. Or if you’ve paid extra you can hear any music you like.  It’s your pleasure for twenty minutes so enjoy it.

Or if an orgasm is not what you’re after, Yea right, Anyone can get an all over twenty minute massage. Either way with this one machine every customer leaves, relaxed, satisfied and in a much better mood.

That’s my story and I’m sticking to it..

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The Catch

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DAILY PROMPT

Breathing Room

An extra room has magically been added to your home overnight. The catch: if you add more than three items to it, it disappears. How do you use it?

The Emporium

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A continuous story that just might make you blush…

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John Brooks reclined stiffly on a black leather couch so soft it felt like velvet. His forearm draped over his brow shading his eyes from the light in the doctor’s office and seemed to subconsciously conceal his emotions. John’s wife and family made a visit to the Viennese psychiatrist, Dr. Saurpoose, mandatory after learning of his second life, which exist in the world of voyeurism. It was obvious that John was nervous with this initial visit with the doctor.

“Well Dr. Saurpoose,  I don’t know where to start.” He shrugged his shoulders as he spoke.

The doctor, a spectacled balding gentleman in his sixties, sat cross-legged in a matching leather chair equally plush. As he stared at his notepad and pen he began the discussion.

“Vell Mr. Brrrooks, you might start by describing what you feel the day prior to your visit to the club.”

“ I am happy, I…

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Book trailer; Second Chances Sammy’s story by Annie Edmonds

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